Tuesday, September 2, 2014

Tips for road trips with children

We have taken several short road trips with all of our children before.  Usually they don't require much planning or foresight.  For our family vacation this year, we planned to drive from our home in DFW, Texas to the cruise port in New Orleans, Louisiana.  Plotting this drive out on an online directions service, it shows 8-9 hours one way.  Because we are traveling with small children, we planned for this to take roughly 11 hours.  The idea of 5 people in an SUV together for 11 hours was enough to make me crazy before we ever left. 


I started reading up on ways to lessen the pain of a road trip with small children and annoying husbands.  Strangely enough, there was similar advice on both subjects!  The following are my tips for a positive road trip experience:

- Gifts, bribes and surprises, oh my! 
I packed a small backpack of small toys and cheap gifts to pass out to the kids in times of boredom and freak outs.  I surprised my teenager with a new pair of headphones before the trip since she would be sitting in the back seat with the two younger kids and I knew that she would need them.  They also came in handy when she wanted to sleep and couldn't handle the music that we were listening to. 

Days before the trip, I made several shopping trips to Target and Walmart for little trinkets.  I bought sticker packages, those bags with small surprise toys in them, a cheap Barbie and Ken set, etc.  We didn't have to use as much stuff out of the backpack as I thought that we would, but it definitely came in handy in stressful navigation times. 

I would recommend raiding the dollar section at any store like that for little toys and play things for the kids on the road trip.  You won't feel bad about them losing or breaking them and they will be excited about new toys, even if they get thrown away at the end of the trip. 

One of my friends on Facebook showed a picture of her traveling recently on a road trip and she had this ingenious travel desk situation set up for her children.  It was awesome!  That would enable the kids to color or read books without dropping pieces on the floor or agitating the neighboring child with their activities. 

- Drive while they sleep
Early in the planning of the road trip, my husband and I made a crucial decision.  We were going to align our travel plans so all of the children would sleep for the majority of the drive to Louisiana.  My mother had planned to take the younger children for the day before the trip so we could finish our last minute prep items and they could visit with them before their big vacation.  My mother and I speak several times every day and I think that this cruise was very stressful for her this time, because she could not check up on all of us until it was over.  The idea of her taking the children to her house was awesome also because it helped me to sleep during the late evening because I would be taking the first driving shift. 

We kept the kids up until we left, which was almost 1am.  They thought this was awesome because normally we make them go to bed before then and they felt special and jazzed up because of all of the energy in the air.  My son was so tired though that he was falling asleep as I was putting him in his car seat in the car.  The plan was to keep them up late, get them in their comfy pajamas, bring blankets from their beds and put them to sleep as we were taking off from the house.  Both of my younger children are still rear facing in their seats, so they are at more of a recline than other more conventional forward facing car seats.  I do think that this would have caused more of the 'dead puppet head' look if they were forward facing and might not have been as comfortable for them.  Warning: This is dangerous for anyone who is a notoriously sleepy driver or who can't stay awake when everyone else in the car is asleep.  Use your own judgment to determine if this works out for your family. 

The kids slept until about 8-8:30am, which put us only about a few hours away from the hotel.  They were well rested and ready for the day with only a bit of grogginess from being in the car.  By the time, that we got to our hotel for an early check in, my husband and I were more than ready for a nap and some relaxation time.  The kids turned on the television and zoned out for a bit while we napped for a few hours.  Trust me when I say that a bit of tiredness on your part is worth it compared to the torture of dealing with a steady stream of "Are we there yet?", "I'm bored", etc.


- Rest and stretch stops are mandatory!
Just like it is not healthy for you to be still in the car for hours on end, it is also not healthy for children to be that way.  Plus, it's uncomfortable!  Your children will be much happier if every few hours they are allowed to get out, run around and blow off some of the pent up steam that has been building.  And you will definitely be happier if they are happier.  I scheduled our breakfast stop at a place that I knew was loud and boisterous and wouldn't mind rowdy children.  They also have a large front lawn and rocking chairs for the kids to use as entertainment.  I also knew that they would eat well and would be full and ready to tackle the remaining few hours drive. 

On the way home, we planned the same thing.  We drove for a bit, then stopped for a restroom break - which seems to always happen with two relatively newly potty trained toddlers.  Everyone got out, used the restroom, stretched their legs, meandered back towards the car and away we went.  It also helps that I have very sleepy car riders.  It doesn't seem like we are in the car more than 5-10 minutes before they fall asleep, but they were definitely ready for the break and the walk around when it presented itself. 

This doesn't have to be a planned out thing.  If you notice that your children are getting antsy, pull off into a rest stop, find a local park, find a McDonalds play place, etc.  Anything where your child can have a break from the car and their seat for a bit.  They should run and stretch and just let loose for 5-10 minutes at minimum every few hours. 

- Have a steady supply of travel friendly drinks and snacks
In a previous post, I mentioned that we brought our own water bottles on our cruise.  We packed three of them in our carry on bag for my teenager, my husband and myself.  We used the other two as drink bottles for the kids in the car.  We stopped and filled up with Gatorade - my children's favorite drink (please don't start about how unhealthy it is - they like it and this trip was a vacation and not a health camp!).  We used the Contigo water bottles.  I like Contigo because they don't spill even when turned upside down and shaken - Silas decided to test that out for them one time in the car.  They also can be used without the straws.  I knew that I was going to have limited access to cleaning tools and wouldn't be able to properly clean out those pesky straws that come with the cups, so we left them at home.  They don't work the same way, but they still function.

We bought NutriGrain bars, chips, tiny bags of cereal, cheese sticks, etc. anytime that we stopped.  I bought anything that I knew was tiny and could be consumed by tiny hands without much assistance.  If I would have been a better preparer, I could have had a stash of prepared snacks for the car ride.  I am making a mental note to do that next time.  But then how am I going to indulge my road trip Combos habit? 

Yes, constantly feeding and giving your children drinks in the car means that you will have to pull over more for restroom breaks, but I find that is better for small kids because that gives them a chance to get out and makes them overall more happy to be traveling. 

I have learned a lot myself from this road trip and will utilize these tips in the future when planning another trip.  Road trips with children of any age is not impossible, but it does require planning, patience and creativity for the continuing sanity of all people involved. 

What are you tips for road tripping with children?

Monday, September 1, 2014

Tips for cruising with children

At the beginning of 2014, Hubby and I decided that we wanted to take our children on a vacation this year.  He and I have traveled on several cruises together in the past and we think that it is completely worth the money.  I will cover what we do and do not love about cruising in a separate post. 

Since our teenage daughter is in public school and we were not wanting to pull her out of school to go on vacation, that left our options fairly slim.  Cruising during the summer can be very expensive so we decided on a cruise at the tail end of summer out of New Orleans to Cozumel and Progreso, Mexico.  We have been to Cozumel several times and knew what to expect but neither of us had ever cruised to Progreso, so we were excited for a bit of a change.   

We would have two toddlers and a teenager traveling with us, so I was in full planning mode from the time that I booked the cruise until the day that we boarded the boat.  This was our first big vacation since the younger ones were born and I was nervous about what they would enjoy, how they would react, etc.  On top of all of that, I was dealing with anxiety about them falling overboard.  If you want to look up all of the research on google, let me save you some time.  It is almost impossible to fall overboard a cruise ship unless you are trying, i.e. climbing over the railing, standing on top of the tables near the edge in a 'Hold my beer and watch this' style moment, etc.  And as far as I could tell, there has never been a child fall overboard a cruise ship... but that didn't stop me from worrying that we would be the first.  With that fear aside, I plunged forth into planning and executing a vacation that we would all be happy with.   

The following are my 6 tips for happy traveling with kids on a cruise:

Know your food options
Anyone with children can tell you that a single moment can go from perfect to ruined if your child, or husband for that matter, is hungry or thirsty.  One of the positive parts of a Carnival cruise is that you can get something to eat and drink 24 hours a day.  This is perfect for people traveling with kids.  Weeks before boarding, I had already viewed the deck plans of the floors of the ship provided on the company's website to find out how close we were to the different eating areas.  Carnival will provide tea, water and lemonade during the day, and juice during the morning hours for free to all patrons.  Sodas and alcoholic drinks are available for purchase throughout the day and night at any bar throughout the ship.  I will review the Bottomless Bubbles soda and will talk about the alcohol program in a later blog. 

If you don't find anything that squelches your child's hunger pangs, there is always free room service.  A small selection of sandwiches, snacks and beverages is available for delivery for free to your stateroom.  Just remember to tip! 

There is a formal dining room option on every ship.  Prior to the cruise, your stateroom gets placed at a table.  Sometimes this is alone, sometimes this is with strangers.  In the past, we have been sat with our fair share of interesting people.  On this cruise, we were sat with a very nice family from Canada with three lovely daughters.  They were pleasant to speak with and it was good to get to know someone over a nice meal.  This dining room serves more fancy type foods than the other dining areas, think lobster, shrimp cocktail, escargot, etc.  I wanted our family to eat in this dining room everyday just for the experience, but hubby was not so sure.  We made plans for both situations and ended up eating in there every night.  The kids enjoyed it and we got to have our nice dinners.  If you kids are not used to dining out and behaving simultaneously, I would refrain from eating in this type of a dining room.  Ideally, this is not the place for loud children, children throwing food or screaming tantrums at the top of their lungs.  The waiters and other patrons understand a small disturbance but be respectful of other's trying to enjoy their meal. 

Typically on 'sea days' - where you don't stop at a port, they will offer a brunch in the formal dining room.  If you can manage to wake up in time and find yourself some decent clothes, you should definitely partake in this.  They offer kid friendly items, like chocolate chip pancakes, but also grown up fare such as heuvos rancheros.  We went to brunch one morning because we had a coupon for a free drink and it was much nicer and more enjoyable than we anticipated and worth the line that we had to wait in to be seated.  The kids enjoyed their pancakes and juice and we got to have a decent breakfast.   The day before they will place a menu outside of the dining room for both the brunch and the regular dinner so you can see what you will be offered before you get all gussied up for a meal.  There was also at least one vegetarian item per day offered in that dining room. 

The casual dining area serves different food options at regular intervals throughout the day.  They typically serve some of the same cuisine as the nice dining room but also more casual fare in a buffet style setting.  This area provides salad bars, soft serve ice cream, pizza, hot sandwiches, drinks, and a bar - a yay for mommy after a long day!  There were several days that after the children went to bed, Hubby and I snuck up here for an ice cream cone and an adult beverage.  On our boat this time was also a Mongolian grill and an outdoor grill area serving burgers, hot dogs, fries, chips, queso, and a few small desserts.  During breakfast, there will typically be an egg/omelet/quiche station.  This is the place to go with rowdy kids.  This is also the place to go to watch the drunks stumble around, as there was plenty of that.  Our casual dining was at the very rear of the boat, so it was neat to go in there and enjoy the view of the open water.  You can also eat outdoors next to the dining room.  This sounds nice and is good for someone without kids, but it is very windy out there  and that isn't always conducive to being able to enjoy a meal. 

In the casual dining area for breakfast, they will have individually packaged dry cereals.  Typically, I would grab at least one extra for the kids to have at a moment's notice.  We usually carried one bag around the boat and I would keep them in there.  That way if we were walking around and someone started acting up, they could eat a little something to hold them over until the next meal. 

Keep some "normal"
If your children are young enough, like two of mine, to still need a daily nap, don't forget that they will still need to nap on board.  As a matter of fact, they will need a nap more because they are out of their routine and constantly being stimulated by new people, new sights and new activities.  This nap during the day was also good for the rest of us because it enabled us to chill out and relax while they were resting.  Also, one of the days, Hubby and I snuck away and played Bingo and walked around.  It was nice.  If your children don't need a nap, then don't be afraid to keep them on their regular schedule from at home.  If you typically eat at 7 and are in bed by 10, why change that because you are on vacation? 

There is a higher chance that your children will be well behaved and enjoy their vacation more if they have something familiar like their schedule when they are surrounded by a lot of unfamiliar things.  I packed the pillowcases from their beds and one of their toys that they sleep with to have on board to give them some comfort since they would be sleeping in an unfamiliar bed.  It worked very well as they didn't seem to have any problems going to sleep during the day or at night.  Have them help you pick an item out to put in their suitcase and they will feel more involved in the process. 

We also chose to bring our own re-usable water bottles, so we could keep the kids hydrated throughout the day.  These came in handy on the boat as well as in the ports, since you don't always want to drink the water in Mexico.  We would fill them up several times per day with ice and lemonade or tea.  Since they were our own water bottles, the kids were familiar with them and thought nothing of drinking the same amount of water that they would at home, where if we would not have had them, the kids might not have stayed as hydrated as they did.  This is important since getting overheated while swimming on the upper decks or at a port can be very dangerous. 

Don't be afraid to try new things. 
This is for kids and adults alike on a cruise.  In the formal dining room they will offer items like escargots, lobster, etc.  If you have never tried any of these items, what are you waiting on?  Encourage your kids to try items from the menu that they never would.  Isabella ate a seafood pasta and a mushroom pasta at the dining room one day and loved both of them.   

There are also 2-3 nights during a 5 night cruise that they will have their performers put on a show.  This might not be every one's cup of tea but it is really cool.  Dancing and singing and sometimes audience participation - what could be better?  Of course, at home, we have never taken our toddlers to see a show like this.  Our teenager might have seen a show like this but never with us.  They loved it on board!  Silas was SO enamored by the sights and sounds that he looked like he was in a trance.  Isabella enjoyed it because she got to dance around and sing with the people.  She now acts out shows like this in our living room every day.  Take your kids and if they don't enjoy it, you can always leave and find something else to do.  They will put a flyer everyday in your stateroom that will detail all the activities for the following day so you will be in the know. 

We did not participate in a lot of other activities but on the boat there is literally something to do all day and most of the night.  They have competitions out by the pool, such as the hairy chest competition, Bingo, dance classes, art shows, etc.  No matter what you like to do, they have something for everyone to enjoy.  There is a casino aboard every ship and they are always busy.  I usually have decent luck with the slot machines and always spend a small amount of money in there during each cruise.  The casino is a nice place to go to indulge in some alone adult time since no children are allowed in, sneak a cigarette and an adult beverage.  Plus there are plenty of deck chairs for anyone who likes to sit out by the pool and relax in the sun.  Since three of the five people in my party are almost transparent they have such fair skin and red hair, it is impossible for us to be in the sun for very long without super sun protection. 
 
Utilize the childcare. 
During the week, my children are watched by my mother.  If hubby and I want to go somewhere, they are always watched by our teenager, or another member of my family.  There is never a time that they are being supervised by someone that they don't know personally, so the thought of using the daycare program on board was terrifying.  Camp Carnival is a children's area for children that are 2-17 years old.  The children get separated into appropriate age groups and different age-appropriate activities are conducted in each group.  Some of the older groups even roam around the ship, can swim, etc.  The younger group that my toddlers fell into stayed in the area where we dropped them off.  There were tons of toys, Legos, books, etc. in this area for them to play with. 

My daughter was immediately fascinated and as a child who is mostly out of that 'stranger danger' mindset, she was excited to go and play with other children her age.  Plus the person that she was going to be left with was a woman and she has a tendency to be a lot more comfortable with women strangers than men strangers.  Not sure why... it's just the way that it is.  Silas, on the other hand, did not approve of this plan from the get-go.  He was determined that he would not be left there and I was determined to give it a go for a bit.  On our boat, they gave us a phone for the duration of the cruise that they would call if something went awry with your children during their stay in Camp Carnival. 

I dropped them both off one morning.  Silas cried at the door and Isabella ran off to play.  The woman told me that he would be fine and they would distract him and I took off with hubby for some time by ourselves to walk around, etc.  I am glossing over the part where I was also crying leaving him there.  As a mother who is lucky enough to not have to leave my children while they are crying like that ever, I don't know how you parents do it if that happens to your child at a daycare.  That was honestly one of the hardest moments of the trip.  Little did I know that we would be back to pick them up about an hour later.  Grace had gone back to have them call us and find out where we were and this upset both of the younger kids and they called us to come retrieve our three upset children.  It was a small break though. 

I fully believe that if your children are used to being around a daycare type environment or old enough to walk around by themselves, that the Camp Carnival atmosphere is awesome.  Grace's age group had ice cream socials, towel animal folding demonstrations, swimming, their own formal night, etc.  They plan lots of fun activities and the people who work with the children seem really invested in ensuring that the children of all ages have a great time.

Child containment devices are your friend. 
The two most important items that we brought on our cruise were our Ergo carriers.  In the planning stages of our cruise, I was very overwhelmed with the idea of getting my children through the long lines that you have to wait in to get on the ship, metal detectors, etc.  At that time, we had one Ergo carrier and I would comfortably wear either one of the children on my back anytime that we needed to go on a walk in the mall, around town, etc.  I knew that we had to get another one for this cruise. 

Now that they are older, the stroller is less and less a good idea.  Plus our stroller that will hold both of them is so bulky and heavy and I knew that we would be stressed for space in our room making that a less than awesome option.  These Ergo carriers were the best item ever and I would recommend them to anyone traveling on a cruise with toddlers and babies.  Being able to wear the kids when getting on and off the ship saved us time and energy wondering where they were, getting them to walk up the gangway to get on board, etc.  You just strapped them on your back and away you went.  They are fast and efficient and the staff even let us through the metal detectors with them on and allowed the kids to take a picture for their ID while still strapped to us. 

And last, but certainly not least... let your kids be kids.  A vacation is a time for everyone to relax and enjoy themselves.  This should not be limited to just adults, but should go for teenagers and kids alike.  There are so many activities available to people on board, there is no excuse to not have fun on a cruise.  If my kids wanted to dance and sing with the many performers singing and playing music around the ship, I let them.  If they wanted to swim at night and have an extra ice cream cone before bed, I let them.  I know that when they grow up, they probably won't remember a cruise that they took when they were 2, but if they do, I want them to remember that they had fun and enjoyed themselves.  These times don't last forever and we should try to preserve them as best as we can and allow our children to experience joy in anything that they are doing. 

What are your tips for cruising with kids?